Negative, judgmental thinking causes disturbances in energy that prevent us from reaching our full potential. We have to fill our minds with positive energy by forgiving ourselves and others for not being perfect.
One way to get rid of negative feelings, especially if you are dealing with someone who you can’t really talk to, is to think about them and write them a letter telling them what is on your mind. You tell them what they do or did that bothers you, that you are sorry, and that you love them. Then you write a letter from them to you, where they tell you how sorry they are and ask you to forgive them. In doing this exercise, you not only vent without involving others, you also accept that maybe you were responsible in some way for the bad feelings, whether or not you are aware of what you did.
This coincides with the Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono – which means to make it right. The idea is that when the mentally or physically ill to let go of past memories perceived as being negative and disruptive, they can attain a state of harmony with themselves and with others.
I made my own version of the Ho’oponopono Mantra to encourage self-love, using a painting by my mother, Doris Ko Magison, who passed on recently. I replaced “please forgive me”, with I forgive you, because I had to learn to forgive and accept myself for not being perfect physically and emotionally before I could forgive others: