An Irritant that became a Pearl

Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.                        –  Luke 6:28

When an irritating piece of sand becomes lodged inside their shells, oysters produce a secretion which eventually becomes a pearl.

Whether you walk or roll you will be in difficult situations with irritating people from time to time.  With prayer and forgiveness, you can turn the irritant into a lesson to be learned, a pearl of wisdom, so to speak!   Here is my story:

One day I went to a restaurant for lunch with my husband and his daughter.  When it was time to leave, I looked for a clear path to the exit, which was not the most direct route, and rolled around the dining area.  She said I should have asked someone to get up and move their chair so that I could fit my wheelchair through the crowded dining area.  I said I was not going to interrupt someone’s lunch for my convenience, since it was not big deal for me to roll.

A few months later, she brought up the subject again.  I told her I did not want to talk about it, it happened so long ago.  She continued, saying that she would not mind it if she had to get up and move for a wheelchair.  I told her that as long as I had a choice, I prefer not to inconvenience people.

The conversation went downhill from there.  Maybe it would have been better had I simply hung up on her.  But I did not want to be rude, and I am only human and so I found myself saying, “Don’t tell me what to do, especially since you are not in a wheelchair!”   She hung up on me.

Upon reflection, I realized that she had no right to judge my behavior, let alone get on my case about it whether she was in a wheelchair or not.   Her efforts to try to convince me that I should have done it her way showed a total lack of empathy and maturity.  I was so angry!  When a week passed and I did not receive an apology I was livid.

How do I get over this and move on?  By forgiving her and praying for her happiness for 30 days, an idea I heard on a radio show hosted by Marianne Williamson.  So I did this – it was really hard at first, but it really worked!   Even though I was angry, I prayed for her happiness.  A truly humbling action.  Eventually my attitude changed from anger to acceptance.

I have no feelings of ill will towards this person, but I do not go out to restaurants with her any more.  It was only a matter of time before she again felt the need to convince me that I needed to see the world through her eyes.  She was right, I was wrong, and that was that.  Life is too short to debate the small stuff.

I still pray for her happiness – until she learns to agree to disagree and accept that there are different strokes for different folks, how happy can she be?

As for me, I am happily rolling around enjoying myself.  I have since learned to make sure that the hostess seats me at a table that is not in the center of the dining area.  .  .  .  .  .

About Elizabeth

Elizabeth is a powerful light worker, intuitive medium, and coach. She lives with the daily challenge of muscular dystrophy and shares the wisdom she receives from the Divine Source of all that is, bringing joy to the lives of others.
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